It Takes A Village

How a Support System can Make or Break Postpartum

Postpartum taught me something before I ever became a mom myself.

At 20, I know I still have so much to learn about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood. But watching my older sister walk through postpartum twice completely changed the way I see maternal care and support.

Her first postpartum experience was hard. After a fairly smooth birth, she and her husband were sent home from their birth center just hours later, in the middle of the night with a newborn and no real support system nearby. My niece barely slept, emotions were high, and exhaustion hit quickly. When I saw my sister weeks later, she looked completely worn down — fragile in a way I had never seen before.

Then came baby number two. This time, the birth itself was actually much more traumatic: induction, high blood pressure, rapid delivery, and significant hemorrhaging. Everyone expected postpartum to be even harder for her, especially with 2 under 2.

But it wasn’t.

Why? Because this time, she had a village.

My mother and sisters and I flew in by weekly shifts for a month. My sister and her husband had recently moved closer to many of their friends, who all showed up to support them. They brought dinner, breakfast, even desserts, usually featuring all-disposable containers so no dishes had to be washed and returned. People showed up consistently for her so she could rest, heal, bond with her new baby girl, and process everything she had been through.

Me and my second niece when I flew out to help my sister after birth.

And the difference was incredible.

The anxious, depleted version of postpartum was replaced by a mother who felt supported, confident, calm, and cared for.

Watching this showed me that postpartum recovery is not just about the birth itself. It’s deeply shaped by community, practical help, emotional support, and whether a mother is expected to carry everything alone.

They say it takes a village.

I didn’t fully understand that until I watched what happened when my sister finally had one.

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Sarah Hermanson

Wellness Practitioner In Training.

Medically Reviewed by Dr. Sonal Patel